No Merit Badge for Being Busy

No Merit Badge for Being Busy

July 22, 2022

It’s been a week! Coming back to the office after being away feels as though the work, the responsibilities, the “too much to do” has magically multiplied while I was off “playing.”

Does this happen to you, too?

It does for many of the women business owners we serve, no matter how capable and experienced they are. So, it set me to wondering.

What is it about being ”busy” or “too busy” that  makes us want to claim that label for ourselves?

Do we draw a parallel between being busy and being important, well-regarded or successful? Does being too busy tell us that we are in high demand?”

Maybe being busy gives us permission to say “no” to things that we really don’t want to say  “yes” to …it removes the weight of guilt or explanation.

Whatever the source or meaning we assign to it, we really seem to have embraced it, and it’s time to JUST STOP!

Busy isn’t better and there is no merit badge for being busy.  If you’ve been telling yourself for far too long that you have to be over-worked, overloaded, or overwhelmed to be okay, it’s time to change the narrative.

It doesn’t serve you to take a vacation only to immediately erase the restorative benefits as you step back in the office door. You didn’t abandon your business when you took that vacation…you took care of yourself and your family for awhile.

Try these simple reframes to the “too busy story” and see how they feel:

  • Instead of “I’m so overwhelmed with work now that I’m back,” try “things kept humming along while I was gone. There’s just enough work waiting for me to know that I was missed.”
  • Instead of “sorry, I’m just so busy I can’t do that,” see what it feels like to say, “I’ve filled all of my new priority slots for now, but I’ll let you know if something opens up.”
  • Rather than, “it will be a long time before I take another vacation, it’s not worth being so busy when I get back,” change you thinking to: “ I’ m excited to get back into a healthy work rhythm.”

You will be surprised at how much better you fee! That wasn’t too hard, was it?

 

Blessings,

Chris